Although I tried AA and NA for many years throughout my 20’s and early 30’s, I never felt like they were right for me.
I saw many others really enjoyed the programs, but I didn’t.
I always felt like there had to be a better way for me, personally.
I totally loved that other people were so into 12-step programs, but I also had to follow my own heart.
I had to figure out a path that resonated with me.
So that’s exactly what I did.
And my heart and intuition guided me down the exact path I needed.
My New Journey
I embarked on a new journey of following my heart and intuition, which ultimately led to me quitting opioids and other drugs once and for all, the creation of my best life, and the ability to help others do the same.
The following 12 steps were not consciously constructed at the beginning of my new journey.
However, I felt “guided” along the way, and it was truly remarkable the way everything worked out, one miracle after another.
Looking back on my Transformation, I know it was a duplicatable system that could help millions of people.
Epiphany in the Shower
The other day I was taking a shower, and the 12 steps I used on my path just popped into my head.
I frantically typed them out as fast as I could after getting out of the shower (while still in a towel), as I didn’t want to forget the information that had been given to me.
Now I can see clearly the exact 12 steps I took, even though they were unknown to me at the time I was “working” them.
The 12 Steps I Took on My Path
Many people have success using AA, NA, and other 12-step groups.
And that’s truly remarkable.
But for the people that don’t resonate with those programs, here are a different 12 steps that may fit you better, as they did with me.
Step 1. We admitted that we let our substance use go overboard, and that the decisions we made led to pain and suffering.
Step 2. We realized that no one is perfect, and sometimes life can difficult, so we made a conscious decision to have self-compassion and forgive ourselves.
Step 3. We realized that it was our fault we got into this mess, and it was our responsibility to get us out… that no one else is to blame, and that we are not victims.
Step 4. We came to believe that all of our problems in life can be seen as negative, or they can be seen as powerfully positive opportunities to grow and strengthen as a person.
Step 5. We decided that we would embark on a path of personal transformation, with our end goal being the Total Transcendence of Addiction.
Step 6. We began walking the path.
Step 7. To help us achieve our goal, we developed resolve that we would get rid of any Fixed Mindset attributes we had, and upgrade them for a resilient Growth Mindset.
Step 8. We intentionally sought out resources such as Personal Development, Exercise, Spirituality, and Support Systems that could help us complete our Hero’s Journey.
Step 9. We realized and admitted that every person has a unique model of the world, and thus it was our duty to find resources that resonated with us personally, and not what resources others told us we should use.
Step 10. We came to understand that we could have failures, setbacks, relapse, and other hardships.
Step 11. We made a conscious decision that during these hard times, we would try our best to keep a positive attitude and view our setbacks as things to learn from, and not failure.
Step 12. After recovering from addiction and transforming our lives, we made an intentional decision to either use what we’ve learned to help others struggling with addiction, or to not help others with addiction, but to contribute to the world in a different way that resonates more with us, knowing that contribution is an important element of life fulfillment.
There are Many Paths to Recovery
It’s important to understand that there are many paths to recovery. We are all unique and have completely different “models of the world.”
Which means that different paths to recovery will resonate with different people.
The only thing that really matters is that you’re true to yourself and do what feels right for you, and not go down any path of recovery that doesn’t feel right to you simply because someone tells you it’s the only way to recover.
I honor you for the courage it takes to recover from addiction.
You are an amazing person, and you can live up to your potential one step at a time.
- People are different, and not all paths to recovery work the same for everyone.
- 12-step programs work great for some people, and some people don’t resonate with them.
- For the individuals that don’t resonate with 12-step programs, they can choose many other methods of recovery.
- The 12-steps I unintentionally used could work for many people, but they wouldn’t be the best path for everyone, as we are all different.
- The trick is to find a path that resonates with you, personally, or use your heart and intuition to create your own path.
If you have any comments or questions, you’re welcome to post them in the comment box below.
UPDATE: Lots of people have been posting very judgemental comments, and for those people, I highly encourage you to check out my article on The Outrage/Blame/Victim/Pettiness Epidemic. Thanks.