I sat down to write an article and had no idea what I wanted to teach, and then a topic just popped into my head.
The topic is premature ejaculation caused by coming off opioid drugs.
When I first had sex on opiates, I noticed that I could last exceptionally long.
Instead of 30-40 minutes, I found that I could last for pretty much as long as I wanted.
That was obviously a huge confidence booster, which added to the long list of benefits that opioid drugs provided me with.
Unfortunately for me and countless other males that have quit opioids, the rebound effect can lead to some embarrassing times in bed.
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The Rebound Effect
Opioid drugs such as hydrocodone, oxycodone, methadone, buprenorphine, and heroin can significantly delay ejaculation. As I stated above, this was a benefit for me.
However, if I took too much I wasn’t able to ejaculate during sex (no matter how hard and long I tried).
No big deal really.
The real problem was when I quit opioids completely.
For the first couple of weeks after getting off opioids I had premature ejaculation (PE).
PE is basically just ejaculating sooner than the man or woman (or another man) would like.
Since opioids delay ejaculation, once a person is dependent on the drugs then quits, there is a rebound effect.
It rebounds far in the opposite direction and now instead of delayed ejaculation, you often get speeded up ejaculation.
After I quit Suboxone the first time (though not the last time), almost as soon as I began to have sexual intercourse with my girlfriend, I would notice that I was already close to ejaculating.
How embarrassing!!!
And since she had no idea that I was an addict and that I had recently come off Suboxone, I had no excuse.
After two attempts at having sex and both times lasting less than 10-15 minutes, I just decided to avoid traditional sex at all costs.
Instead, I focused on pleasing my girlfriend with oral sex so I wouldn’t have to feel like a total failure of a man.
Tantric Sex
There are many supplements and even books that promise they can end your premature ejaculation.
Most of these are not effective.
If you suffer from regular PE (which is different than PE that is induced from coming off opioids) I recommend reading The Heart of Tantric Sex: A Unique Guide To Love and Sexual Fulfillment.
After reading this book many years ago then practicing what I learned with a partner, I was able to make love for hours and not ejaculate, while simultaneously providing my partner with multiple orgasms.
If you don’t suffer from typical PE but you get a case of it after getting off opioids, the teachings of the book can still help, but not as much because the rebound effect can cause significant PE which is very difficult to counteract.
Different Scenarios
If you’re single and not having sex with anyone you have nothing to worry about.
If you’re in a committed relationship and your partner knows you just got off opioids and this is to be expected, you shouldn’t have anything to worry about (if they have an empathetic nature).
If you’re in a relationship with someone that lacks empathy or if you’re dating someone new or even being promiscuous, then the premature ejaculation induced from getting off opioids can be quite a drag.
Foreplay and Oral Sex for the Win
As I stated above, if you’re single and not sleeping with anyone and you get PE from coming off opioids, you’re good to go.
But if you’re in a different life situation where you’re having sex, then PE could cause some psychological issues.
For instance, let’s pretend you and your girlfriend have sex and you ejaculate really fast and it’s over as quick as it begins…
Then she gets mad at you and criticizes you for it.
That could lead to hurt feelings, resentments, and other relationship issues.
So if you catch yourself in this situation or a similar one, I recommend the following protocol:
- STEP 1: Give your girlfriend a full-body massage with oils. Do it sensually in candlelight with erotic music.
- STEP 2: Once she is totally relaxed to her core, engage in other types of slow, sensual foreplay for at least 30 minutes.
- STEP 3: Give her oral sex until she is very satisfied.
At this point, she may reciprocate and do the same for you.
And in all my life I’ve never heard of a woman that complained when the man ejaculated too quickly while she was providing oral sex–after she had already been sexually satisfied.
Final Thoughts…
If you don’t normally suffer from PE but you get a case of it after quitting opioids, don’t worry as it will level out and return to your normal baseline eventually.
This could take weeks or months, but it should restore to your normal baseline over time.
And if you normally suffer from PE and opioids help you delay ejaculation, then when you come off opioids it will be the worst case of PE you’ve ever seen.
Some guys can’t even last 1-2 minutes after coming off opioids.
If this happens to you and PE is leading to psychological and/or relationship issues, I know of several things that may help.
Here are some common ways to prevent premature ejaculation:
- SSRI’s – Antidepressant drugs like Lexapro, Paxil, and Celexa that increase serotonin and are commonly known to delay ejaculation.
- Tantric Sex – The healthiest and most fun way to delay ejaculation or even prevent it altogether.
- Extended Pleasure Condoms – Nowadays you can purchase condoms with benzocaine as an active ingredient, which is a male genital desensitizer, helping a man to delay ejaculation.
- Kegel Exercises – Specific exercises that can delay ejaculation, cure PE, as well as strengthen erections and enhance orgasms.
I hope you enjoyed this article as much as I enjoyed writing it. It’s a topic that doesn’t come up too often, but I know there are a lot of guys out there who suffer from rebound PE after getting off opioids.
And many of these men already had PE to begin with when beginning to use opioids, which can create the worst case of PE ever after they quit the drugs.
Before I end this piece, I will mention another article I wrote that you may find value in.
It’s called How To Boost Libido While Taking Methadone, Suboxone, And Other Opiates.
Decreased libido from using opioids is a very common issue for both men and women, which is why I wrote a detailed article on this phenomenon–as well as the most effective methods of natural and medication-based treatment modalities.
Thanks so much for reading…take care…and I wish you the best.
https://opiateaddictionsupport.com/how-to-increase-libido-while-taking-suboxone-methadone-and-other-opiates/
Hard to describe how much this article hit Home while reading it. After switching from 30 mg oxy to heroin to fentanyl Over a six year period (Believe it or not) My life pretty much went to shit, With one notable exception. My sex life became so great that my girlfriend and I started posting videos online. It became a great distraction from my Addiction fueled Self-destruction. Sure, I was buried in debt, noticeably suffering, health issues, avoiding my friends and family, but we had fans!
Long story short, I realized this airplane was going to crash into a mountain if I didn’t do something soon. I am 40 days clean from opiates. When I got home from rehab, my girlfriend couldn’t wait to jump into bed with her “porn star“ boyfriend. I can’t believe this actually happened, but it did… I actually ejaculated while going down on her. Yep, just the friction from the bed was enough. She knows the deal and I don’t hide anything from her and she is remarkably loving and encouraging, but holy shit is this embarrassing.
Three years ago, I went to a detox facility and tried to get Clean. I made it a couple of months on Subutex. The anxiety of PE led to my relapse. That won’t be the case this time. I just need to let the process play out.
Bonus fact: my girlfriend stayed at her mom’s and so I thought this was an opportunity to experiment. I thought maybe having an orgasm or two might slow things up. NOPE! Masturbated three times and none of them took longer than a minute and I tried to go slow….
Thank you for this article. I am very encouraged that with extended foreplay and patience, everything‘s going to be OK.
been off and clean for about a month and can feel my test returning to normal. Glad to hear the PE will even out in time, this was extremely worrisome.
Thanks for writing this article man. I never leave comments on things but I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate you sharing your experience and knowledge on the subject.
Over a month off Buprenorphine I’m not experiencing any withdrawal symptoms yet still having issues with PE. To hear that everyone is eventually going to return to their pre-opiate baseline is extremely encouraging.
I only hope my wife can put up with it until it does..
My pleasure. Glad it gave you hope my friend.
I have struggled with heroin for years, i eventually got brave (stupid) and moved from 2g a day of strong stuff straight to carfentanyl. I have no idea how im alove because even that habit got out of control. I probably had a daily dose that would kill several people a few times over. I swithed to methadone, it took 130mg a day to bear withdraw.. yes i was still going through serious withdraw at 130mg a day methadone. After a few months i found a balance. I was so motivated after that expeirence that i never stayed at a dose long enough to be stable. I dropped 7mg a week until i made it to 75mg a day. Then 5mg a week to 20mg. Then 1mg a week until 5mg. I was amazed that 5mg a day was giving me a high. This was great, not because i was high, but because i knew my body was healing. I dropped 1mg a month after that. The very first day after stopping 1mg i felt nothing… no withdraw. I was afraid of a delayed effect but i pushed through my fears. I never felt any detox or withdraw. Ive always heard methadone was to come off of. But it saved my life! I am now 6 months sober. Quitting wasn’t all i had to do. I had to cut out all influences. Didnt matter if they were family or best friends. I just enlisted in the air force. See ive always been very gifted, as most addicts arent dumb, we just end up in life situations where drugs seem like the miracle cure. I had a bachelors degree, after graduation is when the addiction too my life over. I am shipping out in January. I have a long path ahead of me, but i will become an air force fighter pilot. Can you believe that? I went from heavy opiate use, to a potential air force fighter pilot using methadone. I had stayed single through my entire recovery because of the PE. It was insane. A girl would breath towards me and i was done. Once i accomplished enlistment, and got my paperwork. The confidence, along with exercise fixed that also. Point is, realize that every side effect, every struggle, is all temporary and dont let it hold you back or slow you down. Stay focused and stay on track! Pay attention to this articles advice as well. It has some very good information! Goodluck to everyone!